Life is unfair, just accept it?

There seem to be an obsession to look at the world as being unfair.

Men don't get to suffer the pain of birth, that's unfair.

Larry has a pretty girlfriend, I am still alone, life's unfair.

Fred is born in a rich family, life's unfair.

Michael is successful in his business, life's unfair.

"Life is unfair, just accept it" is one common advice given to people. However, this advice is a trap. This statement causes myopia, commonly known as shortsightedness. By saying life is unfair, one focuses on a particular event and judge the rest based on it.

Yes, men don't get to suffer the pain of birth. Neither do men enjoy the close bonds with babies. Neither do men get several months of pampering love from all members of family during the months of pregnancy. It is only unfair when you focus solely on the pain of birth. Once you pull yourself away and look at the whole picture, the truth is we don't know if it is fair or unfair. There are too many factors and things to consider.

Instead of focusing on fairness of life, why not focus on how to make life happier and better? Women can focus on the plus points of birth to make the pain worth it. The men can acknowledge the pain women went through and refrain from commenting negatively if the women refuse to have more babies.

The same sort of analysis can be used for all cases of "life is unfair". The focus will always be focused on a minor part and the whole picture is lost. By looking at the whole picture, one can easily acknowledge that one doesn't know for sure and deal with it as such.

Blaming life or the other party on unfairness is just not helpful. But we can find ways to deal with these feelings and balance out the challenges that nature or chance throws at us.